I’m an enthusiastic list-maker: “Things to Accomplish Before the In-Laws Arrive,” “Books to Read,” “Summer Salad Recipes to Try,” “Ways I Could Be A Less Bad Person ...” Still, I cannot imagine the kind of adult who makes a list of people to tattle on. The type of person who judges other people — strangers — and decides that those people should be punished. The person who even goes so far as to conduct research in order to find people to punish, without knowing or carin